The Power of Words
#2 Things I wish I had taught my son... And still can
Aug/28/2008 07:04 AM Filed in: Relationships | Ancient Wisdom
If you're not going to say something spirit building...
Don Miguel Ruiz the famous author of the Four Agreements calls it... Be Impeccable with your words.
What he means is never to inflict pain on anyone with your words. That's because whether positive or negative they are powerful.
Words make or break a young child's spirit. Words break hearts. Words leave scars that hurt a lifetime.
But it seems, because people insult one another so often, that we are impermeable to "put downs". Not true. The child inside of us still gets damaged when somebody cuts us down. Some people will carry the baggage of insults with them to their grave. Families have been destroyed by what seemed like a little joke.
There is a cliché that older people use. They use it because it is wisdom. They say... "If you're not going to say something good about someone, then don't say anything at all." It's not cool to not insult. it's sort of like an "in" thing. But insulting is like stealing life from somebody.
Take Don Miguel Ruiz's shamanic advice and build people's spirit with your words. If a put down session is already taking place and somebody you know is the one who is being ground down to mince meat, don't participate. Don't add your two cents worth of insults. If you do participate, your "so-called" friends will expect you to be mean-spirited and they will eventually fear that mean spirit that lives and grows within you.
Word,
Your papi
Don Miguel Ruiz the famous author of the Four Agreements calls it... Be Impeccable with your words.
What he means is never to inflict pain on anyone with your words. That's because whether positive or negative they are powerful.
Words make or break a young child's spirit. Words break hearts. Words leave scars that hurt a lifetime.
But it seems, because people insult one another so often, that we are impermeable to "put downs". Not true. The child inside of us still gets damaged when somebody cuts us down. Some people will carry the baggage of insults with them to their grave. Families have been destroyed by what seemed like a little joke.
There is a cliché that older people use. They use it because it is wisdom. They say... "If you're not going to say something good about someone, then don't say anything at all." It's not cool to not insult. it's sort of like an "in" thing. But insulting is like stealing life from somebody.
Take Don Miguel Ruiz's shamanic advice and build people's spirit with your words. If a put down session is already taking place and somebody you know is the one who is being ground down to mince meat, don't participate. Don't add your two cents worth of insults. If you do participate, your "so-called" friends will expect you to be mean-spirited and they will eventually fear that mean spirit that lives and grows within you.
Word,
Your papi
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